I thought about what really matters when I sat with my mother-in-law, Agnes Elizabeth, in her last hours on earth. It’s not uncommon for anyone to at least contemplate what it all means when time is spent with someone at the end; however, it requires an intentional choice and decisive action to stop and make some changes.
So. Some of my top thoughts that need my attention include:
- Being full of God changes how life and death is experienced. Because. When God is invited into every part of life, things will change. But. The pre-conceived legalistic, religious ideas about God must be let go in order to experience the reality of GOD. Otherwise, many of the blessings of life will be missed. What do I need to change in order to experience more of the reality of God today?
- Focusing on what matters changes the course of daily living. The frustrating, irritating, maddening stuff of life means nothing in the last hours. So. At some point, there needs to be a decision to let go of what does not really matter. The choice to focus on what really matters– to focus on GOD first rather than circumstances, problems, and downright hard things–releases the pressure and stress. Yet. It’s not always easy to do. What am I focused on today?
- Learning that prayer is a way of life based on a personal relationship with GOD rather than a religious obligation, changes the order of priorities on a daily basis, producing a closeness with God and others. Prayer is life sustaining to my spirit as breathing is to my body. Is prayer as vital as breathing is to me today?
- Choosing love rather than condemnation and rejection opens the door to endless possibilities in this world. Love heals and wins the heart while condemnation and rejection hurts and harms. The value of love is lost when the door is slammed shut. What door do I need to open so I can love rather than condemn or reject today?
- Refusing to waste time changes how life is lived. The things that waste time have no meaning at the end of life. It’s nothing new but must be reviewed: Wasting time is wasting life. So. What is a time waster for me today?
While Agnes Elizabeth lived to be almost 90.5 years old, it would have been a great gift to have more time with her. I’ve sat beside people of all ages in their last hours of life and while they may have been ready to leave this earth, none of the individuals thought they had enough time. No one. So. The best advice I can give, is to maximize every facet of life on a daily basis.
Life is a gift. When life is invested into what matters, rather than misspent, it’s a life well-lived.
May you live well and maximize life to the fullest. It matters–Kerrie
By the way–I would love to have you come to my home tomorrow and join the fun!
(Written by Kerrie Carlisle Palmer © 2015 ALL RIGHTS RESERVED)