For most of my life I’ve been surrounded by individuals who have made me feel like a star. It’s a prophecy for those who choose to live the “with-God” life:
There have been some who have seen me from a different perspective . . .
It all started when I asked, “What can I do for you?”
I was not prepared for the answer. I received a complete negative critique with a list of who I was to be and what I was supposed to do. As time went by, I found myself bracing for a negative comment each time we talked. Eventually, I developed a sense that others wanted to respond in the same way.
The challenge to navigate the tasks set before me became increasingly difficult because of the constant push back. I tried to make accommodations; however, the negativity took too much of my energy and time.
My thought was this:
As soon as I do _______, then all will be well.
I kept trying to change the story by trying harder.
In the end, the problem remained. I could not be who I’m not to be. I could not do what I am not to do.
I finally realized the negativity did not come from a place of truth but a place of lies. I needed to move out of the darkness of lies into the light of truth.
- First things first: I needed to forgive.
The toxicity of lies remains until it’s let go. Lies will eventually rule every part of life if, they are not faced and let go.
- Then: I needed to make some changes so I could live the best story by being who God called me to be to complete my life assignment.
The best for you and I is the best for others when it’s based on God’s unstoppable love and powerful grace. It’s important to realize that not everyone wants us to change the way we behave and relate to one another, whether it’s for the best or not. Change is often uncomfortable and sometimes downright painful.
At the end of the day: I choose who I am and what I do through the love and grace of God rather than from those who have a different agenda. I’ve incorporated a simple question into the way I evaluate my life: “Are these words and actions based on love and grace?”
When I intentionally align my life with God’s love and grace, I’m at my best. It’s the message of I Corinthians 13:1-3,13 and 15:10–
What if I speak in the most elegant languages of people or in the exotic languages of the heavenly messengers, but I live without love? Well then, anything I say is like the clanging of brass or a crashing cymbal. What if I have the gift of prophecy, am blessed with knowledge and insight to all the mysteries, or what if my faith is strong enough to scoop a mountain from its bedrock, yet I live without love? If so, I am nothing. I could give all that I have to feed the poor, I could surrender my body to be burned as a martyr, but if I do not live in love, I gain nothing by my selfless acts . . . But now faith, hope, and love remain; these three virtues must characterize our lives. The greatest of these is love (I Corinthians 13:1-3, 13, Voice)
Today I am who I am because of God’s grace, and I have made sure that the grace He offered me has not been wasted. I have worked harder, longer, and smarter than all the rest; but I realize it is not me—it is God’s grace with me that has made the difference (I Corinthians 15:10, Voice).
There’s no need to choose to live in a place of lies when there’s a bridge of love and grace leading to a place where it’s possible to be who we are created to be and do what God has planned: “shining like stars in the sky.”–Kerrie
Written by Kerrie Carlisle Palmer © 2017 ALL RIGHTS RESERVED